…to seek to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you, so that you may walk properly in the presence of outsiders, and not be dependent on anyone. (1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 HCSB)

We live in a world that is more technologically connected than ever before, while at the same time more relationally disconnected. As a result, people are struggling to relate with others in a healthy way, and they are having trouble keeping their relational life in balance. We have lost our sense of boundaries. Boundaries are critical to having healthy, balanced relationships and we all need them. However, waking up one day and deciding you need boundaries right away may not be a good idea. People who get a sudden urge for boundaries often make mistakes in implementing them. It’s as if they pull out the biggest, boldest, blackest Sharpie marker they can find and draw a box around their life, alienating others on a moment’s notice, turning inward. In the end, they are the ones who end up isolated. The better way would be to draw an imaginary thin line with something more like a yellow highlighter. That would be enough. Boundaries aren’t meant to be overt and dark: they are meant to be invisible. Boundaries, though firm, still allow light to penetrate. I should still be able to see God in you. You should still be able to see God in me. Our lives need not scream “I HAVE BOUNDARIES” from the mountaintop. Boundaries are whispers within us that keep our life and relationships in balance. Think of this: When a person walks a tightrope, people are silent; they themselves do not shout out “I am balancing!” – nor does the crowd roar “You are balancing!” Actually, there is a hush all around. Lesson? A person with healthy boundaries walks in grace, balancing life and relationships to the glory of God, shining His Light through and through.

A Prayer: Father, give me wisdom in my relationships. Help me to have clear boundaries that still let your light shine in and out of me. Lead me in a healthy, balanced life that glorifies You.

Read more: Colossians 3:12-17