What's wrong with men?

July 5th, 2016

Men have lost their minds. At least that’s how it seems to me as a life-long male who legally became a man nearly 32 years ago.

Men are doing things to women these days that are appalling and beyond outrageous. Most of us have a plethora of women in our lives — wives, girlfriends, mothers, aunts, cousins, friends and acquaintances — and we should be disturbed by what some of us consider acceptable treatment of these women.

Take the recent conviction of Brandon Vandenburg, the former Vanderbilt University football player who orchestrated and videotaped the gang-rape of his own girlfriend. How does a young man conclude that it’s OK to drug the young woman who had given him his heart so that his boys can rape her? Why did it seem sensible to make videos of the horrific act to share with friends?

I can’t begin to fathom what made Vandenburg and his friends think their behavior was acceptable. But the prevalence of rapes and sexual assaults proves they are not alone. One of six American women have been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. And of all rape victims, 82 percent of juvenile victims are female; so are 90 percent of adult victims.

Many of us men are afflicted with an ancient mindset. It’s documented in the story of the Levite and his concubine found in Judges 19.

In this story, the concubine — more accurately, wife number two — is brutally raped and killed by a mob of men whose initial desire was to rape her husband. To save himself, her husband tossed her out to the ravenous mob to placate them and save his sorry self from the same fate.

The Levite didn’t protect his wife; he sacrificed her. And he did so right after reconciling with her following a four-month separation.

Judges 19 and the Vandenburg case are separated by millennia and miles. But both stories highlight the callous disregard for women that some men have, even for their wives or girlfriends.

Something is wrong with men and male culture. And men are the ones in the best position to fix it.

Judges 19:30 tells us how: “Take careful note of it! Discuss it and speak!”

Take careful note of it: Admit the reality of the evil women often are subjected to by men. Stop ignoring it or blaming it on how they dress or act. Accept responsibility for the locker room attitudes and behaviors that demean women and encourage some men to become predators.

Discuss it: Talk honestly, openly and often about how we should be treating women. Start holding each other accountable, challenging each other to do better.

Speak: Take action by standing up against the mistreatment of women, and by standing with them as the predators and manipulators who assault them are being held accountable.

Something is wrong with how men treat women. Something horribly wrong. And men who claim Christ have an obligation to try to make it right.  

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